Guest Post: The Little Things Matter The Most

In For Better or Worse, Liam O’Reilly is a man who knows how to care for Emma. There are certain qualities in the character of Liam that I have loosely based on my husband, and the ability to always step in when needed is one of them. My husband is the master of what I like to call the “grand gesture.” He’s all about making a splash, and if he’s going to do something, he’s going to do it big. For instance, the night of our very first date, I had to work late. He was traveling to see me, and it was going to take him a couple of hours to get there. Not wanting to be late, he allowed himself plenty of time for the drive. He arrived about three hours earlier than he was supposed to, and showed up at the place where I worked at the time. Needless to say, I was surprised to see him.

I explained that I didn’t get off work for three more hours, and I apologized, but there was little else that I could do. So he turned to my co-worker, who was just about to clock out and go home, and asked her if she would cover my shift. Then he sweetened the deal by offering her $100 to do so. Needless to say, she was getting a pretty good deal by working the remaining three hours of my shift. As far as first date impressions go, that one basically won me over. I was shocked that a man would go to such lengths just to spend a little extra time with me. I’d never experienced anything like that before, and it showed me right from the start what kind of man he was.

Throughout our years together, he’s managed to pull off a few more of those grand gestures on several occasions. There was the time that he surprised me with concert tickets for a band that I’d always wanted to see when I was a teenager. Needless to say, it meant more to me than it ever would have when I was thirteen. Perhaps the one that stands out the most in my mind was the day that he went to “run errands” and came home driving a brand new vehicle that he’d purchased for my birthday because I “deserved a better car.” These were all important events that endeared him to me from the very beginning, and they continue to do so even after all of these years.

For me, though, it’s not so much the grand gestures, but the small, seemingly unromantic things he does for me on a daily basis. These tiny things show me how much he cares. It’s the way that he takes my car through the car wash because he knows I have an intense fear of getting stuck inside of the machine. It’s the way that he plants our vegetable garden and cares for it all summer, because he knows that I want fresh vegetables but I can’t stand the heat or the sun. Sometimes he can tell that I’m overwhelmed and he knows that the only thing that will help is a little peace and quiet, so he’ll make sure that it happens. It’s the way that he leads me into a crowded room with his hand on the small of my back because he knows how intimidated I am when I’m around too many people. When we have to go to social events, he always carries the conversation, knowing how awkward I am around people I don’t know. I know that he “gets me” in a million different ways, and I appreciate him all the more for it. He understands my quirks, he’s aware of my fears, he’s learned about the things that I dislike, and he does his best to make life better for me in whatever way he can.

In his mind, I’m quite certain that these little things don’t mean all that much, because like I said, he’s all about the sweeping gestures. But in my mind, they add up exponentially. Although they may seem to be small, unimportant, mundane things, to me they are the most important things of all. You see, love isn’t always about fanfare, or pomp and circumstance, and although my husband’s grand gestures are amazing, and I’m so glad that they are part of our love story, there’s so much more to it.

Sometimes it’s the quiet, seemingly unnoticeable things that make the biggest impact on a heart. It’s in these moments that I know he really sees me, the real me, and he reminds me in a thousand little ways why I fell in love with him in the first place. In my mind, these are the grandest gestures of all, and each individual thread makes up the fabric of our life together.

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